Q & A's
With The Art of Wholehearted Communication by Michele O'Mara, PhD, LCSW
Let’s face it, intimate, honest and accurate communication is a skill.
If you struggle to find the words to say what you mean, or find yourself comin' into a conversation a little too hot, you are not alone.
Communication is not as simple as finding the right words to convey what you think and how you feel; it is a full-body, wholehearted experience that requires self-awareness, emotional regulation and a conscious intent to know and be known.
But don't fret. You, too, can learn to communicate effectively!
Whether you are a single lesbian, hoping to get your next relationship right, or you are currently partnered and recognize it's time to up your communication game, we've got you.
Intimate communication (aka Wholehearted Communication) is a dance between two nervous systems. For the dance of communication to be effective, it requires conscious awareness of how you are feeling and what you are needing. With greater self awareness and the skills to communicate more effectively, you can develop a dance of interaction that creates genuine, intimate connections.
Wholehearted Communication Helps You:
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The sessions show us how this whole world of our nervous systems has influenced our lives in so many ways that were completely hidden to us, in spite of the fact that we've both been in counselling and studied things like non-violent communication for years! We just want to say how much we both appreciate the knowledge you brought together for this course and, more importantly, for the way you delivered it.
- Bonnie and Natasha from Canada
Most couples do not need counseling,
they need better communication skills.
That is why I created an affordable and accessible online course specifically for lesbians, called, The Art of Wholehearted Communication.
This course combines the Imago Relationship Theory, Nonviolent Communication, the Polyvagal Theory and Self-Regulation, Mindfulness, the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy. The course includes six one-hour units that are organized into a novel and effective process that promotes understanding and connection while reducing the risk of re-escalation.
Effective communication is a skill,
and one that most of us are never taught.
In session after session, lesbian couples express frustration with their negative patterns of communication that keep them looping in circles, misunderstanding one another. This cycle becomes discouraging and leads to a feeling of hopelessness. Often, one partner expresses her frustration loudly, repeatedly and with a lot of passion, while the other tends to withdraw, retreat and go silent. This leaves one partner feeling rejected, unheard and unimportant, and the other feeling overwhelmed, silenced and numb. Both partners feel powerless.
If this is you, there is a way out of this negative loop.
WHAT YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS COURSE
The Fundamentals of Listening
How to Be Heard (becoming hearable)
A Fail-Proof Roadmap for Effective Communication
Barriers to Communication and How to Overcome Them
How to disagree without fighting
How to speak with more honesty and openness
Michele is an excellent coach and facilitator. Not only is the material helpful but she "walks her talk" (demonstrated with her partner). I'd recommend this course to anyone. It's a user-friendly and practical course. Her style is also engaging: she has a great sense of humor, has sound applications, and provides a safe space.
- Susan L, North Carolina
It was outstanding. Very clearly taught with excellent handouts – specific, sharp looking. Flowed well from concept to concept. Really liked the teaching format. Exercises were very beneficial. I would highly recommend it.
– Tamara Weber, Saint Clare, MI
It was amazing!
So insightful and especially validating to see that we're not the only ones who struggle the way we do with communication, don't change your personable and welcoming demeanor.
– K&M, Huntsville, AL
Specifically for Lesbian, Queer & Non-Binary (non-male) Folx
Supportive Community of Lesbian Couples
6 Weekly Live Online Video Classes
Audio Recording of Classes
71 Page Communication Workbook
Registration is $187. You are welcome to join the class with or without a partner. All sessions are recorded for your convenience.
Talking seems to make things worse, so you don't talk as much.
Everything seems more fragile, sensitive, explosive, and distant.
You miss her. You wonder if she misses you, too. Your emotions dance between anger and sadness, resentment and guilt, frustration, and longing.
Confusion replaces confidence. Sensitivity replaces understanding.
The uncertainty is painful, scary and it leaves you feeling unsure of what to do.
And that's why you're here, reading about lesbian relationship communication. Right?
You want to feel the way you did when you first fell in love with her.
The louder she gets, the quieter you become; or the quieter you become, the louder she gets.
Either way, it's not working.
You've tried weekly counseling. Maybe you've been to a couple of different counselors, finding it hard to click with them.
You leave sessions more frustrated than you felt going into them. Yet, you keep going because at least there's some communication, even if it's not great.
Misunderstandings are happening more often.
Why not try something new? Try Wholehearted Communication.
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