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Lesbian Couples Retreats
Lesbian Aventures in Love
LESBIAN COUPLES RETREATS
& COACHING
We provide lesbian couples with relationship transforming experiences.
Do you need a Hail Mary? A last ditch effort to save your relationship? Are you struggling to communicate effectively, going round and round without any progress?
Are you struggling to heal from a betrayal that has created an endless merry-less-go-round of negative interactions that you can't seem to stop?
Have you recently fallen in love, moved in together, or gotten engaged, and want to get it right this time?
The good news is, you're not alone.
Even better news, we can help you develop the right skills to create a reliable path back to a safe, emotional connection.
And, as if this isn't incredible enough, we can help you do this quickly, efficiently, while also making time for fun! You will leave this relationship transformation vacation with new friends and great memories of fun adventures and a newfound hope for your relationship.
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Three Ways We Help Lesbian Couples
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Lesbian Couples Retreats
LESBIAN AVENTURES IN LOVE
WE'RE DIFFERENT
& PROUD OF IT
Relationship enrichment vacation experiences made for lesbian couples
CREATED FOR LESBIAN COUPLES
Michele O'Mara, Ph.D. is a lesbian relationship specialist, and together with her wife Kristen, they curate relationship enrichment and healing experiences that include a vacation getaway with other lesbian couples.
RAPID RESULTS
Many couples confirm that they experienced more from a 4-5 day retreat than they did in a year of couples counseling. Each couple is in charge of their level of self-disclosure. You are also given time for private exercises that build on the skills you learn in the group sessions.
FINISH WHAT YOU START
Weekly couples counseling rarely offers enough time to process your relationship concerns adequately. This can cause your relationship to get worse instead of better. Our retreats allow you the time to finish what you started.
FRIENDSHIP & RELATABILITY
Put your relationship in a safe, supportive, and fun learning environment built to support your challenges and enjoy your strengths. In a small group experience like ours, there is always someone else who feels the same way you do. It's nice to know you're not alone.
"A mind-blowing experience. Michele nurtured the relationship and our love for each other while gently leading us to truths about ourselves.Nothing like what I expected, and one of the best experiences I can imagine."
THE SIX LESBIAN LOVE CODES
These are the fundamentals of a healthy, satisfying relationship. Each love code addresses our essential relationship needs. When these codes are locked, and our needs are unmet, we experience pain and disconnection. The Lesbian Couples Love Code Transformation Program is designed to help you learn the keys to unlocking each love code and to develop new practices that will help you sustain healthy relationship habits and a greater sense of confidence that you have a reliable pathway back to each other when you find yourself disconnected.
GIVE
Giving love is the motor of your relationship. You cannot get from your relationship anything that at least one of you is not giving. The more love you give, the more love you have.
RECEIVE
Receiving love requires the courage to open your heart and the vulnerability to let love in. This is how we say "yes" to love without obstacles, conditions, or doubt. Receiving love is the fuel that keeps the engine running (the giver giving).
UNDERSTAND
Understanding occurs when you can accurately interpret your partner's feelings and behaviors so that she feels known and understood. Understanding requires the language of emotions, not logic, and it's what increases intimacy and sustains your friendship.
PROTECT
To protect your relationship, you must be able to regulate your emotions to prevent harmful interactions and maintain boundaries that encourage self-care and support a healthy relationship.
PRIORITIZE
Prioritizing your relationship requires a mindset shift from "me" to "we.” When you have decisions to make, free time to spend, and love to give, the impact on your relationship is always considered first and foremost.
ENJOY
Relationships are meant to be enjoyed. Feel-good relationships are cultivated by day-by-day moments of positive, uplifting, and joyful interactions that encourage and support the best, most authentic expression of who you are and who you are striving to become.
HOW STRONG IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
With this 18-question assessment, you will Get a Free Snapshot of Your Relationship
Discover the strength of your love codes, as described above.
Get a free report that details your relationship strengths and challenges
Compare your results with your partner's in a side-by-side view
RAPID, POSITIVE
CHANGES IN
YOUR RELATIONSHIP
REPLACE NEGATIVE COMMUNICATION PATTERNS
Growing up, we develop habits of communication based on the environment and circumstances in which we are raised. We do what works to get our needs met. Once we become adults, most of us continue to communicate our feelings and needs the same way as we did growing up, despite the fact they don't work. In the retreat, you will learn new, more effective patterns of communication that create better-feeling interactions and a deeper understanding of one another's feelings and needs.
JOY YOUR WAY TO JOY
Relationship growth and development is serious business. By serious, we mean important - not boring or painful! If your relationship is full of struggle and pain, you will have a pain-filled relationship. If your relationship is full of joy and laughter, you will have a joy-filled relationship. At Lesbian Adventures in Love, we believe we joy our way to joy. The moments we share and the interactions we have become who we are as a couple. We prefer moments that create joyful interactions, connected communication, loving behaviors, mutual acceptance, and pure fun. Because, why not?
WHO'S TALKING? HER OR HER NERVOUS SYSTEM?
We all have a sophisticated built-in alarm system, also known as the nervous system, running on autopilot in the background. When our nervous system detects a threat (real or imagined), it signals our brain to release powerful hormones that generate energy and create sensations that motivate us into self-protective action. Some systems are built to fight, others are built for flight. In either case, the urges we have when we feel threatened are rarely aligned with how we feel and what we want. Learn how to decode one another's nervous system reactions and how to respond more effectively when her nervous system is talking for her.
RE-BALANCE THE YOU, ME AND THE WE
One of the greatest challenges in relationships is finding a balance between freedom (self-expression, independence and individuality) and security (trust, predictability, and commitment). By increasing awareness of your needs and feelings, and your partner's needs and feelings, you will discover effective strategies that meet both of your needs. The question is never, "Who's needs will get met?" Instead, we ask, "How can both of us get our needs met."
NEW ORLEANS, LA
MAR 20-24, 2023
5 Days, 4-Nights
* 2 SPOTS LEFT *
Price Per Couple
$3172 to $3347
GATLINBURG, TN
APRIL 26-30, 2023
5 Days, 4-Nights
* 3 SPOTS LEFT *
Price Per Couple
$2825 to $2975
BUCERIAS, MEXICO
OCT 22-27, 2023
6 Days, 5-Nights
ALL MEALS INCLUDED
* 6 SPOTS LEFT *
Price Per Couple
$3947 to $4372
About Us
MICHELE O'MARA, PHD
Lesbian Relationship Coach
I knew I was different by age eight, but I didn't understand why until I had my first undeniable crush on a girl in middle school.
Oh shit, I thought, now what?
Thus began my life-long quest for a deeper understanding of love and relationships. Why was I different? What does this mean for me and my future? How will I grow up and find happiness? Can I create a loving relationship with another woman? Can I become a mom and build a family?
After two plus decades of both personal and professional dedication to understanding love, attraction and intimate relationships, I am happy to report that, yes, I can grow up and find happiness in a loving relationship with another woman and become a mom and build a family! And, so can you.
If you are searching for a deeper understanding of how to repair, enrich or revive your lesbian relationship, I can help you.
Relationships are a team sport. All sports involve fundamentals for success and relationships are no different.
Over the past two decades, I have distilled the fundamentals of a solid relationship into six Love Codes. Love Codes are informed by multiple relationship theories, as well as research on love, attachment, neurobiology, and the chemistry of love, specifically through the unique lens of lesbian relationships.
When you put your relationship in my care, I will help you identify your challenges, cheer your strengths and provide you with the information and skills you need to heal, repair, and grow your relationship while reminding you that, no matter what, you're already enough.
My dream is to help you experience ridiculous amounts of love, joy, and happiness.
Though educated and credentialed as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology, my work is best described as lesbian relationship coaching. Counseling requires you to have a mental health diagnosis, and because my client is your relationship, this doesn't work because you can't give relationships a diagnosis. Counseling is a service designed to support mental health issues.
While relationship struggles can affect your emotional and physical well-being, they are not a mental health condition or illness. Therefore, relationships are best supported in the realm of education, support and coaching. With a relationship ally in your corner, you are able to notice and address the negative patterns of interaction that keep you in a cycle of conflict, and you can develop necessary skills and new behaviors that support you in having the relationship you desire.
Relationship-Specific Education:
✔ The Gottman Method (trained on all three levels)
✔ Certified Imago Therapist
✔ Certified Discernment Counselor
✔ Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples (two trainings with Sue Johnson)
✔ Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology (Correlation Between Sexual Frequency and Relationship Satisfaction among Lesbian Couples)
Happy relationships are possible,
even for you.
KRISTEN FEUTZ-O'MARA
Kristen O’Mara is a passionate ball of love, scattering her good energy everywhere she goes.
After graduating with a degree in education, she brought her enthusiasm for life and learning to grade schoolers. As it turns out, Kristen did not like being confined to a classroom all day, and decided it was a lot more fun to drive students to and from school.
When the wheels on the bus aren’t going round and round, she is either doing monthly drill with the Army Reserves, or using her magical ways of making our house always feel like a home and our hearts feel full of love.
During the Adventure Retreats, Kristen is the Director of All Things Fun and Delicious.
It breathed new life into my marriage. I was afraid it would just rehash what we’d done in years of couple’s therapy but it got much deeper in a shorter amount of time and gave us immediately actionable tools and skills. I loved being able to witness and learn from all the other fantastic couples in attendance. Michele and Kristen are so real and committed to walking the talk. 10/10 recommend.
The retreat was worth every penny! If you want to be closer to your partner and learn how to talk to your partner or wife in a more directed and non-confrontational way, this retreat gives you the skills to do so. Not only was it such a lovely retreat, but the women that attended were all so fantastic and forthcoming. I felt safe and that was important, as I wasn't sure going into it that I would feel that way.
AMAZING! My gf and I knew we loved the hell out of each other but had hit a rough spot and basically lost hope in our own abilities to get through… I had no idea what to expect, but wow did it feel like divine intervention! Total game changer! JUST GO! Best $ ever spent… The humor, the safe space for openness and vulnerability - we were able to break habits of unproductive and even detrimental conversations
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